Claire Turner EFT

BUSINESS OWNERS: Are You Being A Fearless Leader?

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Are you “at effect” or “at cause” of your emotion? Be that stress, anxiety, frustration, anger, or something else?

And what exactly do I mean by that? And how does that affect your leadership skills?

I heard my business coach – Ryan Rieder – describe it this way:-

Imagine a tennis player, serving.

Being “at effect” of your emotion means that the emotion (let’s say anxiety) is controlling you. So, imagine that you are the tennis ball and your anxiety is the tennis racket. You are being directed (smacked on the arse) by the anxiety, passively, with no control.

When you are “at cause” of an emotion, instead of being the ball – you become the tennis player.

Suddenly, an image of control comes up. Directing the emotion where you can effectively use it.

Or hit it away.

Most people think that this is easier said than done. But is it really?

Let’s park that for a moment.

As a Business Owner, sometimes you have to have an uncomfortable conversation. Something that Ryan has taught me is that your success is in direct proportion to the uncomfortable conversations that you are prepared to have.

Which plays directly into one of the biggest fears people have…conflict.

Business owners can be afraid to say what needs to be said, or confront an issue – because “people might leave if I…[fill in the blank]”

But if you chose the alternative (which is turning a blind eye)…

…you are choosing to knowingly lose money!

And look, we’ve all done it. I’ve been as guilty as the next person for this. And let’s face it, this is probably happening in your business right now. With staff, with clients. Or both.

The reality is that, if someone does leave, no matter how “critical” you may have felt they were, you always look back and think…

“Phew. Why on earth didn’t I do that earlier?!”

It’s the build up to all this that can be so very uncomfortable. The anger or frustration you can feel about someone not doing their job properly. The anxiety that can come up when you think about having a conversation with them about this. That physical reaction you can have.

That there my friend is you being the ball.

Remember how I said you could be the tennis player and hit that away or use it?

Most “normal” people don’t like bringing something up that may cause conflict. It can feel scary and threatening. And your body reacts accordingly by throwing you into a stress response.

When you are in a stress response you lose your ability to engage the sensible part of your brain. You operate entirely from your emotion based hind or reptilian brain.

You have been hijacked.

This means you are unable to be calm, rational, quick thinking, logical. Whilst at the same time being super effective at not being able to articulate clearly, getting defensive and reactive, making the whole thing generally much worse.

(This also carries over into your personal relationships. When you say that thing you don’t mean and have no idea why you said it and now you’re in the dog house. If you’re lucky.)

What if you could reclaim your sensible brain by turning off your stress response? And do it quickly?

Want to know how?

Contact me at info@claire-turner.com and I’ll send you a free gift about it!

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power

Claire x

Stressed?!

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Try This…

Stress is a massive issue for many people at the moment.

It was a massive issue BEFORE Covid, but lockdowns have had the effect of giving it a shot of steroids.

Now, some stress (in short bursts) is actually very good for you. But long, drawn out, chronic stress that you end up wading around in – like stress soup – is very bad.

Bad for your mental and for your physical health.

It will negatively impact your immune system, prevent proper digestion, lay down belly fat, increase blood pressure, affect sleep (when your healing happens) and so much more.

And when you’re stuck in chronic stress it’s so hard to get out of. Why?

Because stress is your body going into the fight/flight response. Blood is routed away from your brain and into your limbs – so you can fight or flee.

The result of blood leaving the brain?

Difficulty thinking. Difficulty problem solving. Brain fog.

And because you can’t think of solutions to what is causing the stress…you get more stressed.

Because you can’t see or find a way out of the stress…you get more stressed.

Vicious. Circle.

It’s the same theory for when you don’t have the thing or life you want.

There’s something you want, or there’s a way you want to live your life – but you can’t seem to get it. This is frustrating to say the least. It can also destroy your confidence and leave you living a life that is well below par.

Here’s the thing. Humans are creatures of habit. You keep doing what you’ve always done…and so you get what you’ve always gotten.

If you want a different result you have to change something. You have to do something differently.

Simple right?

Actually no.

A change of habit feels uncomfortable, often scary and your brain doesn’t like it. It sends it into the stress response – because it can’t tell the difference between real and perceived danger.

Your brain’s job is to keep you alive and safe – so it will actively work against you when you try to make those changes that take you out of your “comfort zone”.

This often presents itself as your Inner Voice; the chatter that goes on behind your eyeballs, giving you all sorts of reasons why you shouldn’t attempt this change. Maybe paralysing you from moving forward. Maybe just subtly distracting you so you don’t even realise you’ve been knocked off course.

Now this isn’t because your brain is bad. It really does believe it’s working for your best interests – it’s trying to protect you. Unfortunately, this mis-guided self love can really get in your way and hold you back.

It can also keep you in that stress state.

If only there was a fast and effective technique for reducing stress! For allowing your intelligent, problem solving brain to come back online! For finding and releasing limiting beliefs that keep you in the stress vicious circle!

Well, I’m really pleased to tell you that – THERE IS! Woohoo!

You may not have heard about it because it’s only recently started hitting the mainstream. If you have heard about it you may have discounted it cos it looks, quite frankly, utterly woo woo.

So, what is it?

I’d like to introduce you to EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), often called Tapping.

See, it’s even got a silly name.

But don’t be fooled by its appearance. It’s EXTREMELY effective at reducing stress. Fast.

There are several studies that support this too.

The latest one, by Peta Stapleton, PH. D., involved 3 groups of people who had their cortisol levels (a stress hormone) measured via their saliva before receiving 3 different interventions.

The first group spent an hour reading magazines.

The second group were given an hour of psychoeducation (info on stress).

The third group received an hour of EFT.

After the hour, the first group experienced an INCREASE in cortisol of 2%.

The second group experienced a reduction of 19% (this is around the usual rate of decline when the cause of the stress is removed).

But the third group, the group who had done an hour of EFT, experienced a WHOPPING 43% decrease of cortisol.

43% – after just 1 hour!

Imagine the positive impact that would have on your mental and physical health. The impact it would have on your life!

80-90% of the choices we make are based on emotions. Would you rather be making potentially dubious choices from a state of stress…or potentially better choices from a place of empowerment?

I don’t know about you, but I can’t think of ONE good decision I’ve made from a place of stress!

EFT gives you the freedom and ability to change your emotional state.

Emotional freedom gives you the power to make better choices.

That’s huge. That’s massively empowering. Yet so many people aren’t aware of it. Or if they are aware of it, aren’t doing it.

Yes…it looks a bit woo woo.

Yes…you’ll feel a bit silly to start with.

Maybe your Inner Voice will tell you that you don’t need it; that your life is already moving along how you want it to. That you’re not being slowed down or held back by internal resistance and so this really isn’t for you.

You may choose to believe that. However, nothing is so good that it can’t get better and the potential benefits of EFT make it well worth giving this odd looking process a try.

What have you got to lose?! Other than stress of course!

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power

Claire x

What’s This EFT Thing?!

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And what can you use it for?

EFT is probably best known for its effectiveness at reducing stress and anxiety quickly, but it can be used for so much more!

Weight Loss

Yep, that’s right! Research has shown that EFT is incredible at eliminating food cravings. Check out my You Tube video for Chocolate Cravings.

We tend to view weight as a problem, but I’d like to invite you to think about it more as a symptom. What was happening in your life when the weight started to go on? If your weight were a metaphor, what would it be? What do you say you’ll do (or be) when you lose weight that may be scaring you? What beliefs do you have a weight and weight loss?

Get your FREE Guide here!

 

Abundance

No way! Yes way! We attach a LOT of emotion to money and harbour all kinds of beliefs about it. That’s fine when the beliefs are empowering, but what if they’re limiting?

If you say you want more money, but you don’t have it, it’s a really good indicator that your sub conscious has spotted a downside to it. I’d like you to consider this statement: The extent to which you don’t have the thing you want is the extent to which you are resisting it.

Get your FREE Guide to the 5 Biggest Blocks To Abundance (and how to get rid of them!) here.

 

Getting Stuff Done

I’m talking about ditching procrastination!

Procrastination is actually your sub conscious’s way to keep you save. The thing you want to do, the goal you want to achieve, if you’re procrastinating about it ask yourself this question: What’s the downside of doing/achieving this?

Sounds bonkers I know, but trust me. Your sub conscious has clocked a downside (probably completely illogical!) and is cleverly, cunningly and sometimes subtly veering you off course.

Discover my easy 5 step formula for eliminating procrastination FOR GOOD here.

 

Essentially, if you’re not feeling great, if you’re in pain, if you don’t have what you want…try EFT!

And if you feel Awesome – pump it up with EFT!

You can literally try it on anything!

 

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power!

Claire x

Does EFT Really Work?!

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Or is it a bit of a scam?!

And I think that’s a fair question. After all, the first time I met EFT the first thoughts through my head were: “What A Load Of Bollocks!”

To be fair, EFT doesn’t really help itself. I mean, it looks fucking weird, and you feel really silly doing it. And what even ARE acupressure points? And how can tapping them do anything?!

Acupressure points are areas on the body that have a high electrical conductivity. Think of them like little garden gates that open onto an energy pathway. This energy pathway is called a meridien.

When you stimulate them (in this case, by tapping them with your fingers), you’re sending an electrical message (an email if you will) to your stress response centre in your brain. Essentially telling it to chillax.

Why is that useful?

Well, when was the last time you made a really good decision whilst you were upset?

When you’re in a stress response and your emotions are high…your intelligence drops through the floor. So, by tapping when you feel stressed (or any other negative emotion) you calm that down and allow your intelligence to come back on line. Not only do you feel better, you stop being stupid.

But here’s where it gets really groovy.

When you go into a stress response it’s because you’ve been triggered by something. The trigger is something that you’ve experienced in the past, or a variant of it that close enough to alarm your subconscious.

For example:

When you were 5 you got bitten by a large, black dog. A traumatic experience that has been squirreled away in your memories and marked as IMPORTANT. Your brain is now on high alert for anything that resembles this memory, in order to keep you safe.

When you see large black dogs from now on, you instantly go into a stress response. But not just large black dogs…small white dogs, medium sized brown dogs. Anything that looks vaguely similar is enough to set you off.

That doesn’t really seem like a massive problem. Until one day you get into trouble whilst swimming in a lake, and you start drowning (God, you’re really unlucky!). As you struggle to keep your head above water, a large, friendly St Bernard comes swimming up to, not only save you, but also provide you with a shot of brandy.

This dog is about to save your life. But your brain throws up that original memory and you panic. You try to get away from your furry life saver. And as a result you drown horribly.

Bummer.

Now, that’s a bit of an extreme example cos I love a bit of drama. But the same theory can be applied to any part of your life.

Maybe you get very stressed when someone tells you what to do? And maybe that’s impacting your ability to hold down a job? If you trace that back, it might lead to a memory where you were bullied at school and told to do stuff you didn’t want to do. So now, anytime you are told what to do (and it doesn’t matter how nicely it’s said or how much it will benefit you), you react badly.

Not only can EFT help you to feel better NOW…you can use it to find the original memory (the root cause) and remove the emotional attachment to it.

Meaning, that you remove the trigger. Remove the trigger and, what would have once sent you off into a stress response, now WON’T.

Emotional Freedom.

*Mic drop*

But how can it even do that?!

Recall a time you really embarassed yourself. Let’s say, public speaking.

As you recall that time in your mind, notice what your emotions are doing. They’re probably going UP.

Tapping whilst holding that memory in your mind calms down the stress response and takes the emotion out of the memory. Without the emotion, you no longer get triggered into a stress response. You can recall that memory with NO EMOTION.

That memory may have been preventing you from doing work presentations that could lead to more money, or a big sale. Now it’s no longer triggering you, you’re going to lose the anxiety and stress around that.

And I’m not just making this shit up. All this has been scientifically researched.

You can learn more from one of the top researchers (Dr Peta Stapleton) here.

(You can also check out my chat with Peta HERE.)

So…does EFT really work?

Well, I can only go from my own experience – and the experience of my clients. Which is YES. EFT does work.

What does it work with? What problem do you need to have?!

I’m going to refer you back to a phrase uttered by my good friend, Brad Yates:

The extent to which you don’t have the thing you want in your life is the extent to which you are resisting it.

Ask yourself the question…WHAT DO I WANT?

When you have your answer, look at your life. Is that thing in it to the extent you want it?

Maybe money, health, love, clients, confidence…whatever.

If it’s not, then you’re subconsciously resisting it in the form of a limiting belief (or beliefs).

THAT’S where EFT comes in. Remove the limiting belief, replace it with a more empowering belief…and what do you think happens?

But don’t take MY word for it…try it for yourself! Check out my You Tube Channel for Tap Along videos.

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power!

Claire x

Can’t Network Won’t Network?

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Is A Fear Of Public Speaking Preventing Your Business From Growing?

Due to Covid-19 I have just attended my very first ONLINE Networking meeting.

I do a lot of Networking and am always inviting people I know, who have their own business, to come along. The reason being that Networking is a fantastic way to connect with and support other Business Owners and Entrepreneurs.

But here’s what I’m finding. Most people are up for it…until I mention that you have to stand up for 40 or so seconds and present who you are and what you do.

Cue the “ums” and “ahs”. Suddenly it’s not at a convenient time, or they’re washing their hair that day. All because they would have to Stand Up And Talk About Who They Are And What They Do.

The HORROR!

This is a very real fear for so many people. But why?

You know who you are and (hopefully) you know what you do. You know how you can help other people. So why does your stomach drop out of your arse when you think about standing up and speaking in public about it? Why do your hands get sweaty and your chest tighten?

The likelihood is that, somewhere in your mind, there is a memory of a time you had to speak in public…and it didn’t go so well.

Maybe at school you had to walk to the front of the class and talk about something. Maybe the other kids laughed at you for getting something wrong. Maybe the Teacher made a disparaging remark. Whatever it was, you now have a recording of this little movie inside your head.

And when this happened, you would have had a physiological and emotional response. Maybe your hands got sweaty. Maybe  you started trembling. Maybe you felt like your were going to be sick. You very probably felt emotions along the lines of Shame, Embarrassment, Humiliation.

And that younger You would have formed a Belief right then, in that moment. And that Belief might be “It’s not safe to stand up in public and talk”.

So you do everything in your power to avoid it. If you absolutely HAVE to do it, you get so nervous that this Belief is just reinforced.

Whatever it was, whatever happened (and you may not really remember, but it’s there – deep in your subconscious) it’s now limiting you, because guess what! To grow your business you have to get out there and tell people about it! And about you, cos people buy from people.

It’s something I realised I’d have to put my Big Girl Pants on pretty quickly about. And to do that I got help. In fact I spent a lot of money on getting help, because I could see that it was an Investment in Me.

So how can EFT help?

Well you can use EFT like a pincer movement.

(a) You can use it to quickly calm feelings of anxiety and stress so you are in a better and calmer place from which to act.

(b) You can use it to find the Event from your past that has caused this limiting Belief…and release it.

So if you are one of the MANY MANY people who fear public speaking so much that they would rather be in the coffin than giving the eulogy…I invite you to have a think about what that’s stopping you from achieving.

And if you COULD stand up and speak in front of other people, how do you think that would affect your Personal and Business GROWTH?

What would it look like?

What would it feel like?

How would your life change?

To find out more about how EFT can help you please Contact Me for more info: https://claireturnereft.com/contact-us/

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power!

Claire x

 

 

 

 

 

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