Claire Turner EFT

What Did You Expect?!

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There’s a Hermetic principle I’ve been poking at recently called Mentalism.

It basically says: “The All is Mind.”

Which, depending on your tolerance for this sort of thing, might sound either fascinating or a bit WTF.

At its simplest, it’s the idea that mind isn’t just sitting there observing a completely separate reality. Mind plays a part in the reality we experience.

And if that’s true, then what we believe and expect becomes rather important. Because our expectations are essentially our mind’s predictions about what reality is going to do next.

And that’s where it gets interesting, because science already tells us that expectation can have a very real effect on our experience.

Take the placebo effect for instance.

Someone believes they’ve been given something that will help them and that expectation can actually change their experience with measurable results.

The pill might simply be sugar. But the expectation can still create a very real response.

And then there’s the brain itself. It isn’t just passively taking in everything around you like a video camera. It’s constantly using previous experience to make predictions about what’s happening and what’s likely to happen next.

Which got me thinking about something that came up with a client recently.

She’d been feeling let down by the universe.

She’d been doing the work. Taking action and trying to trust that things would work out. But she felt like the universe wasn’t holding up its end of the bargain.

As we tapped, we started talking about relationships, and she realised she had a pretty deeply held expectation of them.

You can’t fully trust the other person. Eventually, they’ll let you down.

Then came the interesting realisation: she’d been relating to the universe in exactly the same way.

She wanted to trust it. To believe she was supported.

But underneath that was: eventually, you’ll let me down too.

And right now, from her perspective at least, the universe appeared to be doing a bloody good job of proving her right. In a weird way, it WAS holding up its end of the bargain. Just not the bargain she thought she’d made.

It was behaving exactly as she’d come to expect relationships to behave.

Which raises an interesting question.

How much of what we experience is being shaped by what we already expect?

Because listen to the language we use:

I can never find the right person.

I’m just not good at that.

People always let me down.

I never have enough money.

Nobody’s interested in what I do.

Things always go wrong for me.

I never stick at anything.

Those don’t sound like expectations. They sound like facts.

We’re not saying: “I’m worried I might not find the right person.”

We’re saying: “I can never find the right person.”

Bippity boppity boo – prediction made.

Now, what happens when you carry that prediction into the next date, the next sales conversation, the next opportunity, the next attempt at doing something differently?

What do you notice?

What do you ignore?

How do you behave?

How quickly do you interpret something as evidence that it’s happening again? And perhaps most importantly…what do you do next?

Because this is where it can become self-reinforcing. You expect something. Your brain looks at the world through that expectation. You think, feel and behave accordingly. Something happens that appears to confirm it.

And you go: See? I fucking knew it.

Maybe that’s all that’s happening. Maybe there’s something bigger going on. I genuinely don’t know. But either way, I think it’s worth paying attention to the predictions we’re making all day long without even realising we’re making them.

So catch yourself this week.

Listen for the always.

The never.

The I can’t.

The I’m just not.

And rather than immediately trying to replace it with a positive affirmation you don’t believe, get curious: Is that actually a fact?

Or is it an expectation you’ve repeated so many times you’ve stopped noticing the difference?

And then challenge the prediction with two little words: What if…?

What if I can?

What if it does work out?

What if I am good at this?

What if this time is different?

You don’t have to believe any of it yet.

You’re just giving your mind another possibility to predict.

C x

What’s This EFT Thing?!

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And what can you use it for?

EFT is probably best known for its effectiveness at reducing stress and anxiety quickly, but it can be used for so much more!

Weight Loss

Yep, that’s right! Research has shown that EFT is incredible at eliminating food cravings. Check out my You Tube video for Chocolate Cravings.

We tend to view weight as a problem, but I’d like to invite you to think about it more as a symptom. What was happening in your life when the weight started to go on? If your weight were a metaphor, what would it be? What do you say you’ll do (or be) when you lose weight that may be scaring you? What beliefs do you have a weight and weight loss?

Get your FREE Guide here!

 

Abundance

No way! Yes way! We attach a LOT of emotion to money and harbour all kinds of beliefs about it. That’s fine when the beliefs are empowering, but what if they’re limiting?

If you say you want more money, but you don’t have it, it’s a really good indicator that your sub conscious has spotted a downside to it. I’d like you to consider this statement: The extent to which you don’t have the thing you want is the extent to which you are resisting it.

Get your FREE Guide to the 5 Biggest Blocks To Abundance (and how to get rid of them!) here.

 

Getting Stuff Done

I’m talking about ditching procrastination!

Procrastination is actually your sub conscious’s way to keep you save. The thing you want to do, the goal you want to achieve, if you’re procrastinating about it ask yourself this question: What’s the downside of doing/achieving this?

Sounds bonkers I know, but trust me. Your sub conscious has clocked a downside (probably completely illogical!) and is cleverly, cunningly and sometimes subtly veering you off course.

Discover my easy 5 step formula for eliminating procrastination FOR GOOD here.

 

Essentially, if you’re not feeling great, if you’re in pain, if you don’t have what you want…try EFT!

And if you feel Awesome – pump it up with EFT!

You can literally try it on anything!

 

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power!

Claire x

Does EFT Really Work?!

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Or is it a bit of a scam?!

And I think that’s a fair question. After all, the first time I met EFT the first thoughts through my head were: “What A Load Of Bollocks!”

To be fair, EFT doesn’t really help itself. I mean, it looks fucking weird, and you feel really silly doing it. And what even ARE acupressure points? And how can tapping them do anything?!

Acupressure points are areas on the body that have a high electrical conductivity. Think of them like little garden gates that open onto an energy pathway. This energy pathway is called a meridien.

When you stimulate them (in this case, by tapping them with your fingers), you’re sending an electrical message (an email if you will) to your stress response centre in your brain. Essentially telling it to chillax.

Why is that useful?

Well, when was the last time you made a really good decision whilst you were upset?

When you’re in a stress response and your emotions are high…your intelligence drops through the floor. So, by tapping when you feel stressed (or any other negative emotion) you calm that down and allow your intelligence to come back on line. Not only do you feel better, you stop being stupid.

But here’s where it gets really groovy.

When you go into a stress response it’s because you’ve been triggered by something. The trigger is something that you’ve experienced in the past, or a variant of it that close enough to alarm your subconscious.

For example:

When you were 5 you got bitten by a large, black dog. A traumatic experience that has been squirreled away in your memories and marked as IMPORTANT. Your brain is now on high alert for anything that resembles this memory, in order to keep you safe.

When you see large black dogs from now on, you instantly go into a stress response. But not just large black dogs…small white dogs, medium sized brown dogs. Anything that looks vaguely similar is enough to set you off.

That doesn’t really seem like a massive problem. Until one day you get into trouble whilst swimming in a lake, and you start drowning (God, you’re really unlucky!). As you struggle to keep your head above water, a large, friendly St Bernard comes swimming up to, not only save you, but also provide you with a shot of brandy.

This dog is about to save your life. But your brain throws up that original memory and you panic. You try to get away from your furry life saver. And as a result you drown horribly.

Bummer.

Now, that’s a bit of an extreme example cos I love a bit of drama. But the same theory can be applied to any part of your life.

Maybe you get very stressed when someone tells you what to do? And maybe that’s impacting your ability to hold down a job? If you trace that back, it might lead to a memory where you were bullied at school and told to do stuff you didn’t want to do. So now, anytime you are told what to do (and it doesn’t matter how nicely it’s said or how much it will benefit you), you react badly.

Not only can EFT help you to feel better NOW…you can use it to find the original memory (the root cause) and remove the emotional attachment to it.

Meaning, that you remove the trigger. Remove the trigger and, what would have once sent you off into a stress response, now WON’T.

Emotional Freedom.

*Mic drop*

But how can it even do that?!

Recall a time you really embarassed yourself. Let’s say, public speaking.

As you recall that time in your mind, notice what your emotions are doing. They’re probably going UP.

Tapping whilst holding that memory in your mind calms down the stress response and takes the emotion out of the memory. Without the emotion, you no longer get triggered into a stress response. You can recall that memory with NO EMOTION.

That memory may have been preventing you from doing work presentations that could lead to more money, or a big sale. Now it’s no longer triggering you, you’re going to lose the anxiety and stress around that.

And I’m not just making this shit up. All this has been scientifically researched.

You can learn more from one of the top researchers (Dr Peta Stapleton) here.

(You can also check out my chat with Peta HERE.)

So…does EFT really work?

Well, I can only go from my own experience – and the experience of my clients. Which is YES. EFT does work.

What does it work with? What problem do you need to have?!

I’m going to refer you back to a phrase uttered by my good friend, Brad Yates:

The extent to which you don’t have the thing you want in your life is the extent to which you are resisting it.

Ask yourself the question…WHAT DO I WANT?

When you have your answer, look at your life. Is that thing in it to the extent you want it?

Maybe money, health, love, clients, confidence…whatever.

If it’s not, then you’re subconsciously resisting it in the form of a limiting belief (or beliefs).

THAT’S where EFT comes in. Remove the limiting belief, replace it with a more empowering belief…and what do you think happens?

But don’t take MY word for it…try it for yourself! Check out my You Tube Channel for Tap Along videos.

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power!

Claire x

Can’t Network Won’t Network?

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Is A Fear Of Public Speaking Preventing Your Business From Growing?

Due to Covid-19 I have just attended my very first ONLINE Networking meeting.

I do a lot of Networking and am always inviting people I know, who have their own business, to come along. The reason being that Networking is a fantastic way to connect with and support other Business Owners and Entrepreneurs.

But here’s what I’m finding. Most people are up for it…until I mention that you have to stand up for 40 or so seconds and present who you are and what you do.

Cue the “ums” and “ahs”. Suddenly it’s not at a convenient time, or they’re washing their hair that day. All because they would have to Stand Up And Talk About Who They Are And What They Do.

The HORROR!

This is a very real fear for so many people. But why?

You know who you are and (hopefully) you know what you do. You know how you can help other people. So why does your stomach drop out of your arse when you think about standing up and speaking in public about it? Why do your hands get sweaty and your chest tighten?

The likelihood is that, somewhere in your mind, there is a memory of a time you had to speak in public…and it didn’t go so well.

Maybe at school you had to walk to the front of the class and talk about something. Maybe the other kids laughed at you for getting something wrong. Maybe the Teacher made a disparaging remark. Whatever it was, you now have a recording of this little movie inside your head.

And when this happened, you would have had a physiological and emotional response. Maybe your hands got sweaty. Maybe  you started trembling. Maybe you felt like your were going to be sick. You very probably felt emotions along the lines of Shame, Embarrassment, Humiliation.

And that younger You would have formed a Belief right then, in that moment. And that Belief might be “It’s not safe to stand up in public and talk”.

So you do everything in your power to avoid it. If you absolutely HAVE to do it, you get so nervous that this Belief is just reinforced.

Whatever it was, whatever happened (and you may not really remember, but it’s there – deep in your subconscious) it’s now limiting you, because guess what! To grow your business you have to get out there and tell people about it! And about you, cos people buy from people.

It’s something I realised I’d have to put my Big Girl Pants on pretty quickly about. And to do that I got help. In fact I spent a lot of money on getting help, because I could see that it was an Investment in Me.

So how can EFT help?

Well you can use EFT like a pincer movement.

(a) You can use it to quickly calm feelings of anxiety and stress so you are in a better and calmer place from which to act.

(b) You can use it to find the Event from your past that has caused this limiting Belief…and release it.

So if you are one of the MANY MANY people who fear public speaking so much that they would rather be in the coffin than giving the eulogy…I invite you to have a think about what that’s stopping you from achieving.

And if you COULD stand up and speak in front of other people, how do you think that would affect your Personal and Business GROWTH?

What would it look like?

What would it feel like?

How would your life change?

To find out more about how EFT can help you please Contact Me for more info: https://claireturnereft.com/contact-us/

To Tapping Into Your Personal Power!

Claire x

 

 

 

 

 

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