And What Will It Take To Get There?

There’s something you want – but you can’t seem to get it. This is frustrating to say the least. It can also destroy your confidence and leave you living a life that is well below par.

Here’s the thing. Humans are creatures of habit. We keep doing what we’ve always done…and so we get what we’ve always gotten. If you want a different result you have to change something. You have to do something differently.

Simple right?

Actually no.

A change of habit feels uncomfortable, often scary and your brain doesn’t like this. Part of your brain’s main purpose is to keep you safe – so it will actively work against you when you try to make those changes that take you out of your “comfort zone”.

This often presents itself as your Inner Voice; the chatter that goes on behind your eyeballs, giving you all sorts of reasons why you shouldn’t attempt this change. Maybe paralysing you from moving forward. Maybe just subtly distracting you so you don’t even realise you’ve been knocked off course.

Now this isn’t because your brain is bad. It really does believe it’s working for your best interests – it’s trying to protect you. Unfortunately this mis-guided self love can really get in your way and hold you back. It’s based on old programming and probably a lot of misunderstandings in the form of limiting beliefs.

This is where EFT comes in. EFT is very effective at reducing stress. A study by Dawson Church on the effect of EFT on levels of cortisol (one of the stress hormones) in your blood stream showed an average of a 24% decrease after just one hour of tapping. The normal rate of decline is only 14%. So rather than letting the fear of change stop you, you can tap to reduce the stress and discomfort around it. This gives you the freedom to examine what it is that you might be afraid of…and come to the realisation that you can actually handle positive changes.

EFT gives you the freedom and ability to change your emotional state.

80-90% of the choices we make are based on emotions. Emotional freedom gives you the power to make better choices.

That’s huge.

That’s massively empowering.

Yet so many people aren’t aware of it. Or if they are aware of it, aren’t doing it.

Yes…it looks a bit woo woo. Yes…you’ll feel a bit silly to start with. Maybe your Inner Voice will tell you you don’t need it; that your life is already moving along how you want it to. That you’re not being slowed down or held back by internal resistance and so this really isn’t for you.

You may choose to believe that. However, nothing is so good that it can’t get better and the potential benefits of EFT make it well worth giving this odd looking process a try. What have you got to lose?!

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To tapping into your personal power!

Claire x

Claire Turner – EFT Practitioner

Tapping In To Your Personal Power

The Biggest Mistake That Stops You Dropping Those Pounds

I don’t know about you, but I have yet to meet someone who didn’t wish they could shed a few pounds (or more!) of weight – preferably without the pain of diet and exercise!

Your beliefs about yourself and what you can (or can’t) accomplish because of your size are usually negative:-

“I’m too fat to find love.”

“When I’m thin I’ll finally be happy.”

“I can’t reach for my dream of ____ until I lose some weight and get fit.”

And so on and on and on.

You have been taught to tackle weight loss in a certain way. You diet and exercise FIRST and once weight loss has been achieved THEN the beliefs about yourself and what you can achieve change for the positive.

Right?

Unfortunately, this is the biggest mistake that people don’t know they’re making. They focus on diet and exercise first – when they would be much better served tackling WHY they are overeating. The negative emotions and beliefs behind it all – and changing those BEFORE thinking about diet and exercise.

Now, I’m not saying don’t eat healthily and I’m not saying don’t bother exercising. These are both important. What I’m saying is that weight is not a PROBLEM – it’s a SYMPTOM. It’s your body/brain telling you it’s not comfortable about something and needs attention.

You’re not stupid. You know what food is healthy, nutritious and good for you…and you know what food isn’t. So why do you reach for the “comfort” food?

(Hint: the clue is in the title!)

Right…you need comforting. You need something that will make you feel better than you do right now. In today’s fast paced and stress filled world that’s hardly surprising. So you find yourself reaching for those sugary carbohydrates because they work some voodoo in your brain that then makes you feel calm, happy and satisfied.

(Actually they increase your brain’s concentration of an amino acid called Tryptophan, the building block of Serotonin. Serotonin is a transmitter which, when released, brings about those feel good feelings.)

You overeat because your brain is looking for pleasure!

Overeating in the moment serves a great purpose, it makes you feel good…until the side effects kick in. You put weight on and to counteract this you put yourself on a diet.

So on top of all your everyday stress, you unwittingly add in the STRESS of watching what you eat, the STRESS of using will power and the STRESS of fighting your food cravings.

It’s exhausting!

Then – success! You lose a few pounds. You relax, the will power goes and the weight comes back on, often more than before.

No matter how much you diet, no matter how much you make yourself exercise – if you are dealing with stress and other negative emotions YOU WILL STRUGGLE TO LOSE WEIGHT. Stress will literally create a hormone (cortisol) that makes you fat.

Read that again.

Stress creates a hormone which causes your body to store fat.

Feeling stressed y that?! Ready to give up in despair?! Don’t worry, there is hope!

EFT is amazingly effective at reducing stress and can be used to clear negative and limiting beliefs and emotions.

A study has been done by Dawson Church on the effect of tapping on levels of cortisol in our blood stream. It showed an average of a 24% decrease in cortisol after just one hour of tapping. And that is just the average. Some individual participants experienced as much as a 50% decrease.

The normal rate of decline is only 14%, so that’s a massive difference!

Stress is accumulative. Imagine being able to not only quickly reduce the level of stress you’re feeling but also teach your brain not to react in the first place. That has a huge effect on both allowing you to feel better and being able to lose weight and keep it off.

So don’t put yourself under the stress of dieting. By using EFT you can change your beliefs and behaviours so that you naturally turn towards the healthier option.

Want to learn more about how to lose weight without the pain of dieting? Visit https://claireturnereft.com/services/ for more information.

To tapping into your personal power!

Claire x

Claire Turner – EFT Practitioner

Tapping In To Your Personal Power

 

How to Avoid the Pitfalls.

EFT is one of the simplest and most powerful self help tools out there – but simple doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s easy to master.

So what are the top five mistakes and pitfalls that people fall into?

#1 – Not Using It!

‘Well duh’ I hear you say!

Yet how often have you felt stressed or overwhelmed and didn’t tap? And I’m including myself here! There have been days when I’ve looked back on a bad situation and thought “Why the hell didn’t I tap on that?!”

And I do it for a living!

The thing is EFT is quite new. I’ve used and studied it for the past 5 years – but before that I had no idea it even existed. Without revealing too much about my age, that’s a LOT of years of non-tapping conditioning.

It’s just not something that we’ve had as part of our daily routine. It’s not included in the list of things we do on a day to day basis.

There can be deeper reasons why EFT isn’t used – such as self sabotage, pyschological reversals or resistance to change – but more often than not it’s just simply forgotten.

If you find that this is the case just kindly remind yourself to use it. Maybe leave a post it up somewhere you will see it, as a gentle reminder that EFT needs to become part of your daily routine.

#2 – Being Too Vague

Specifics are key, but to start with it can pay to start with a global statement and by global I mean broad.

For example: “Even though I’m feeling upset right now, I love and accept myself.”

There are no specifics in this, it’s just a general ‘I’m upset’ statement.

This can get you going, but after a round or two of tapping on that it is very important that you start to hone in on the specifics.

Why are you upset right now? Maybe it’s because someone was horrible to you? In which case you would change the set up statement to “Even though I’m feeling upset right now because my partner was horrible to me, I love and accept myself”.

The more specific you can be the better EFT will work.

#3 – Missing Out Parts Of The Issue

We call these ‘aspects’ and a problem state could have many different ones.

Sticking with the “Even though I’m feeling upset right now…”, which then moved into the more specific “because my partner was horrible to me…” issue, some potential aspects of this might be:-

“I’m upset because he/she snapped at me”

[An Audible aspect]

“He/She gave me a really horrible look”

[A Visual aspect]

“My stomach twisted up”

[A physical sensation]

“I’m scared he/she will dump me”

[A fear of a possible future event]

“It reminded me of when my last boyfriend/girlfriend dumped me”

[A past trauma]

“This always happens to me”

[A limiting belief]

You get the idea.

Sure, you can stick with more generalised tapping statements – but these are unlikely to solve the problem and you’ll keep repeating the pattern.

It’s like peeling layers off an onion (not least because it may cause a few tears). By unearthing all the different parts or aspects and then clearing them is incredibly powerful and can last a lifetime.

#4 – Monitoring Your Progress

This can be a biggie – particularly if you’re working alone.

You don’t know if something is working unless you track your progress.

So before you start, think about the intensity of the feeling and give it a number between 1 and 10 – where 1 is “meh” and 10 is “argh!”

I highly recommend you write it down – along with the feeling.

For example:

“I’m upset because my partner was horrible to me” – 9

Then you tap.

The upset reduces but perhaps a new emotion came up. You write that down.

“I’m angry that they treated me that way” – 7

You tap.

The anger changes to guilt.

“I feel guilty that I did something that made them so upset” – 6

You tap.

Then you check back on the original feeling of upset. You barely feel it now, it’s moved to a 1.

The anger has dropped a little to a 5 – there’s something more there that needs tapping on.

Perhaps as you tap some old, traumatic memories pop into your head. Make a note of them. Address each one separately.

You get the idea.

It might appear overwhelming and confusing at first but when you get into the swing of it it’s easy. Recording it all on paper makes it easier still and allows you to monitor your progress and stay on track.

Another good thing about this is that all this takes time. By keeping a record you can put it down and pick it back up again at will.

Which leads me onto the final mistake…

#5 – Not Allowing Enough Time

We live in an age where we expect instant gratification.

Yes, sometimes EFT can work extremely quickly, but more often than not it takes a bit more sustained tapping to work through an issue properly.

You really want at least 10 to 15 minutes of tapping – without getting distracted or allowing yourself to give up too quickly.

That last point can be quite tricky when you’re tapping on yourself as sometimes our sub conscious intervenes when it thinks we’re going to get too upset. It will throw up excuses why you should stop tapping before the time is up – or maybe make you go blank. Acknowledge it and keep going until the time has finished. Maybe set yourself an alarm.

This is why working with someone else can be so beneficial, because they will keep asking questions when you may have given up.

Another way you can get round this is to follow one of my tapping videos – then you can simply tap along!

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To tapping into your personal power!

Claire x

Claire Turner – EFT Practitioner

Tapping In To Your Personal Power